Option back dating

29 Feb

I recently attended a Lock and Key event at Blue Martini in Brickell.

And yes, the females wear lock necklaces while the men wear keys.

Upon arrival, women attendees get padlocks and men get keys.

Each time their hardware matches, its turned in for a new set of hardware and each person gets another raffle ticket for great prizes donated by local businessesor maybe even a date?

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It’s Friday night here in the UK and I’m pretty sure, as happens every weekend, that some of you will be waiting for that ‘certain someone’ to call/text/email about the possibility of making arrangements.

Some of you by the time you read this will have ended up making last minute plans and have been on tenterhooks all week watching your phone etc for ‘The Big Invite’ and some of you will end up sorely disappointed either because you don’t hear from them or because when you do, it’s at some obscene hour or they behave like a twit.

You play The Good Girl/Guy and suckerdart yourself to them as Friend of the Year post breakup so they can recognise your greatness, validate you, and hopefully see the error of their ways – they think “Hmmm, looks like they’re OK with being tapped up for a shag from time to time”.

Here’s the thing: When you wait around for someone to ask you out and you put yourself on layaway so that you can be available should they see fit to ‘make contact’ and dignify you with their presence, you inadvertently communicate that not only do they not have to value your time or even you as a person, but that you’re an option.

An option I might add, that could do with filling up their life with better pastimes than being The weekend thing is just one example of many where you communicate that you’re OK with being an option.

Judging from the popularity of the events (attendance has doubled at each new gathreing) this formula for love seems to be working.

The next Lock and Key party takes place Sunday, May 26 from to 3pm at the Santa Barbara Polo & Racquet Club and also launches Darsonvals Meet the Matchmaker series that will be held monthly, when the expert will be on hand to answer questions about dating in Santa Barbara and to connect singles during polo matches.