Dating games for youth ministry

08 Jul

There is no reason why you cannot make this date the Best. At some point it became ‘Ìâ‰âÂÌâèÏuncool.' But let's be honest, that was so much fun!Let's reclaim the ‘Ìâ‰âÂÌâèÏswag' of roller skates, and why not do it with a significant other?

I think the tendency if you don’t discuss the purpose of dating is to blur these goals, but it’s important to me that they are distinct because they lead to very different follow-up questions.Around the beginning of February, youth pastors are scrambling and asking each other, "What should I put in my sex and relationships talk? "A lot of material focuses on playing it safe and goes way too shallow.Did you know that 90% of 8-16 years old have viewed pornography online? Not only have they heard about everything you're afraid to say... You can grab that stat and more like it from So without further ado, here's our Pro Tips on the matter: God loves them because God is love. No matter what we do or who we are - God's love isn't based on what we do or who we are. You're gonna talk about a lot of stuff that provides Satan with an opportunity to accuse.I met a drunk girl on the streets of my hometown one day while out with a friend. She said, "I've had sex with a lot of people - but I've never made love with anyone." She had decided... There is no such thing as "friends with benefits."The thing is... You'd never compare it to someone who broke their arm once. People who are raped or molested experience physical pain, psychological pain, emotional pain, and spiritual pain. One of my youth told me a story about a girl who (Before I came to this church) asked, "Where in the Bible does it say that people can't have sex until marriage?and culture had taught her that sex can be purely physical. our culture agrees with this (unless it's inconvenient for them). " And apparently (so the story goes) no one could answer her.We're not here to talk about STDs and teen pregnancy. because we know that something more than the physical has taken place.We're here to talk about how great, meaningful, loving, and godly sex can be - when done under the right conditions. When someone is raped they don't just experience physical pain. I asked one of my Juniors when they were planning on having sex and they said, "I'm not sure... probably when I'm 22." We got to have an awesome dialogue about God's expectations for his sex life.)9) Never call youth after PM on a school night unless you want to incur the wrath of their parents (besides, this is the time when they are supposed to be in their rooms, pretending to study, while they talk to their friends on the cellphone.)12) Never forget that, once you add them to your "friends list" on Facebook, your youth can see everything you are posting (unless you can figure the ins-and-outs of how to block them from reading your politically charged rants or the photos of you from the high school glee club.)13) Never buy into the lie that just because the other youth ministries in town have more teens that you must be doing wrong.Just keep loving your youth and modeling, as best you can, Christ's way of peace, justice, and grace.You want to lay this on thick and protect them from feeling condemnation.We're not here to talk about why people shouldn't have sex.