Dating a recovered meth addict

29 May

I wish that he could understand that this just isn't fair.

Enabling behavior is born out of our instinct for love.

A drug bust in Houma, Louisiana led to the discovery of 133 cats living inside a squalid home covered in feces.Every surviving cat discovered had to be put to sleep upon arrival at the animal shelter.It took days for the police to remove the cats from the property.The drug task force also found seven dead cats hidden in the squalid environment.There were also five cats which appeared to have 'serious health issues and injuries.'The kitties were transported to Lafourche Parish Animal Shelter but all had to be euthanized because of their condition.Unnatural and arbitrary hedonic management by substances or stereotyped processes distorts and cripples the psyche and places the individual at a grave survival disadvantage.The addict is double-minded because he cannot really and truly desire recovery until he already has it.Addictive behaviors such as smoking, drinking, drug use, overeating and other "quick fix" maneuvers aimed at rapidly and dramatically changing the individual’s emotional and hedonic state are natural and common targets for resolutions of reform, whether at New Year’s or any other time, to "do better," to "turn over a new leaf" or to "quit once and for all." And even more than in the case of the typical New Year’s resolution, the solemn promise of the substance(alcohol, nicotine, other drugs, food) or process(gambling, spending, sex) addict is well known by just about everyone familiar with such matters to be, more often than not, ‘writ in water.’ In addiction perhaps more than any place else, "The best laid plans of mice and men gang aft aglay." Such natural and only too well justified skepticism about promises of reform on the part of those familiar with the addict does not necessarily include the addict himself, who may fervently and sincerely exclaim "I know I’ve said this before – and I know that you don’t believe me and that you are entitled not to believe me. Or if there is change, it is change for the worse: the addict’s outrageous addictive behavior sometimes seems almost to feed upon and draw nourishment from his passionate promises that "it will never happen again." This phenomenon leaves those who have to deal with the addict in a confused, discouraged, angry and usually depressed state.I wouldn’t believe me either if I were in your shoes. It is difficult to change any behavior to which one has grown accustomed unless there are powerful and consistent immediate rewards for doing so or equally persuasive penalties for not doing so. that of commencing and maintaining a physical exercise program, the rewards of such a behavior change are by no means immediate, while the costs of them –the discomfort occasioned by exercise to which one is unaccustomed- are up front and unavoidable. I beg him to love me more than it, but I'm not good enough. He is just 8 months old and I think it would be sad, If a kid as great as him has to grow up without a dad.