Celabcy abstinence dating dating a borderline personality

07 Aug

It isn’t as if my encouragement of masturbation and cohabitation in that book wasn’t enough to keep tongues wagging.In the almost three years since writing that book, I have to confess that much in my life and mindset has changed. It isn’t that I necessarily disagree with or rescind the things that I wrote in .I wanted to follow Jesus's teachings and honor the Bible's commands to resist "sexual immorality" and give myself only to my spouse — not as dogma, but as a rule I truly believed was in my best interest.But when the boy I liked told me he was dumping me because I didn't want to have sex with him, it really hurt.At that time, I had already made a commitment to abstinence.I never took an official pledge or anything, but I'd made a personal decision, based on my Christian beliefs, to not lose my virginity until marriage.I still firmly believe celibacy is a necessary practice for every adult person at least once in their lives.I think celibacy is a phenomenal choice to become intimately aware of who you are as a person without the clouded judgment that sex can produce.

I was already celibate when I met my husband and made it clear (with my words and actions) that there’d be no sex in the champagne room very early on!

He had intimate friendships, and he was dedicated to his work.

If his celibacy was hard, he was not overly anxious about it; he leaned into the other parts of his life. Part of figuring out how to live into the creative life of God is figuring out how to live into being yourself, and choosing the spiritual practices and disciplines that support your own discipleship.

It wasn’t easy, but we believed that it was certainly possible.

After having grown tired of being told not to fornicate without any concrete strategies on how to do that, many couples have asked us how we managed to avoid romps in the sheets when we were single, dating, and waiting.